I’m Sorry

“Sorry is hardest to say when it matters most.”  ― Ebehi Iyoha

Why?Sorry

We as parents can often be heard saying, “Now tell him (or her) sorry!” or “You had better apologize.” I know from experience that I’m usually saying one of those phrases, or something very similar, most days to my girls. They are 18 months apart and they are best friends. About 90% of the time they play together fantastic!! It’s during that other 10% when those aforementioned phrases can be heard in our house. My husband and I are continually training them up in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6). It’s hard work! They are still learning (and so are we), and that means there are times when actions and attitudes are not what they should be.

But I’m not writing this to talk about our girls. Did you catch the part about us as parents still learning? Of course you did, because you are too. Or at least you should be.

One thing I’ve learned, and am still working on, is the need for us as parents to say sorry to our children. Now I’m not talking about apologizing for disciplining them, or for making them follow your rules, or something similar. For those things, do NOT apologize. But what I am talking about apologizing for are those things you do, that if done to an adult for example, would cause you to apologize. Maybe you were yelling at them and you shouldn’t have been (Proverbs 15:1). Perhaps you misspoke unknowingly and you later learn what you told them was not the truth (Psalm 34:13, Proverbs 12:22, Colossians 3:9).

Many times we use the verse Matthew 18:15 when talking about church discipline, and rightly so. However, it not only shows us how to handle sins committed against us, but it gives us an example of what we are to do when WE sin against another. Consider the passage:  “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.” The one who committed the sin is to repent. Are we following this teaching when we are not apologizing to our children and repenting of the sins we commit against them?

Sorry.
Sorry means you feel the pulse of other people’s pain as well as your own, and saying it means you take a share of it. And so it binds us together, makes us trodden and sodden as one another. Sorry is a lot of things. It’s a hole refilled. A debt repaid. Sorry is the wake of misdeed. It’s the crippling ripple of consequence. Sorry is sadness, just as knowing is sadness. Sorry is sometimes self-pity. But Sorry, really, is not about you. It’s theirs to take or leave.
Sorry means you leave yourself open, to embrace or to ridicule or to revenge.Sorry is a question that begs forgiveness, because the metronome of a good heart won’t settle until things are set right and true. Sorry doesn’t take things back, but it pushes things forward. It bridges the gap. Sorry is a sacrament. It’s an offering. A gift.” 
― Craig SilveyJasper Jones

Drugs? Arrest them! Murder? That’s just fine!

A proposal has passed the Tennessee House that would allow lawmakers to arrest women for damage done to their infants by drug use during pregnancy. It could be up for a vote in the Senate this week. There is a lot of controversy surrounding this bill. Some advocate that arresting them isn’t the answer, that they should be required to submit to some form of rehab instead. Others claim criminal punishment is necessary.

“All sides have agreed that something must be done about babies born addicted — often to prescribed painkillers — who suffer from seizures, vomiting and hyperactivity in a condition known as neonatal abstinence syndrome.” 

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Source: Tennessee Department of Health

These statistics are frightening! The first one really gets to me, but prescription drugs and the over-prescribing of them is an entirely different can of worms I won’t get into in this post. I, like the lawmakers, agree that something should be done. A survey was conducted on the Chattanooga Times Free Press website and the results show that 84% of people who have answered believe that moms of babes born drug-dependent should be arrested, while 15% do not feel that arresting them in the answer.

However, am I the only one who feels this proposed law is hypocritical? “You can’t abuse prescription medication or do illegal drugs while pregnant because it will harm your baby. However, if you want to end the child’s life before they are born, that is perfectly legal!”

We can clearly see that babies are being harmed in the womb every day by drug abuse. What makes that unacceptable and murdering them while in the womb acceptable? Many abortion advocates will use the phrase “It’s a women’s choice”. Many don’t even refer to themselves as pro-abortion or abortion advocates, but as pro-choice. Using that same line of thinking, isn’t abusing drugs while pregnant a woman’s choice?

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Natural News recently published an interesting article about MRSA. In it they stated that “There’s more risk for MRSA to become invasive in the presence of flu or other viruses,” study leader Adrienne Randolph, MD, MsC, of the Division of Critical Care Medicine at Children’s Hospital Boston. Said in a statement to the media. “These deaths in co-infected children are a warning sign.” He added this is especially alarming given the rising rates of MRSA infections being carried widely among children.

“It is not common in the U.S. to lose a previously healthy child to pneumonia,” Randolph said. “Unfortunately, these children had necrotizing pneumonia eating away at their tissue and killing off whole areas of the lung. They looked like immunocompromised patients in the way MRSA went through their body. It’s not that flu alone can’t kill – it can – but in most cases children with flu alone survived.”

You can read the original article here:  http://www.naturalnews.com/034081_flu_pandemic_MRSA.html#ixzz1d26F6Qtk

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Healthcare – If We Can’t Get Birth Right…

Healthcare. This word has become synonymous with health insurance.  They are not one in the same, even though the terms have been used so interchangeably lately. Everyone has their own idea on how to reform healthcare. Some want it controlled by the government, while others want it handled privately. Whichever you think is best, one thing is for certain: Healthcare is really “sick-care” and it’s all about the money.

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I believe there are many aspects that need to be changed in our current healthcare system in this country. However, why not start at the beginning? What is the beginning you say? Conception. Life begins at conception, so why not focus on good healthcare from there. Women and their children in the womb should be receiving OUTSTANDING healthcare. Sadly, this is usually not the case. The maternity system in this country is, in general, terrible. Many doctors and nurses are not practicing evidence-based care. Why are tens-of-thousands of dollars, and probably more, being spent on research when the findings are all but ignored?

In the 2013 Mothers’ Index Rankings, which “reflect a composite score derived from five different indicators related to maternal well-being (i.e. maternal health, children’s well-being, educational status, economic status and political status),”  the United States ranks 30th. Twenty-nine countries scored better than we did. You can view the list here. One statistic I found interesting was that 1 in 2,400 women in the U.S. will die from a maternal cause, the same as Iran. There is no excuse for this. Women deserve better. But you know what? They won’t receive better until they care. Now I’m not saying women think they don’t matter, or that they want poor healthcare, or that they don’t care what happens to them and their child during birth. I AM saying though, that the attitude of most women is “as long as the baby is healthy”. Here’s the thing: How do you know if the care you are receiving is the best option for having a healthy baby? One study found that American’s spend more time researching a new car purchase than looking into which doctor to use. Am I the only one who is frightened by that?

“Doctor, I am scared, what do I do?”
“NOTHING DEAR! You are not qualified!” ~John Cleese, Monty Python, The Meaning of Life

(And yes, they really do screw something into most babies’ heads. It’s called an internal fetal monitor.)

If we really want to reform healthcare in this country, let’s take care of our children and those who help bring them into this world.

 

Which Elf Do You Have?

When I first heard about the Elf on the Shelf I thought it was a cute idea.

elf on the shelfI had decided I wanted to do it with Ruthie when she got a little bit older. I’m not sure when I first heard about the elf, but I do know that near the end of the holiday season last year is when I first heard about the book, “Wait, there is a book that goes with it?” I had thought it was just an elf that you hid every night for your kids to find the next morning, with no other meaning attached. I was mistaken however. I haven’t read the book, but from my understanding the elf is supposed to have been sent by Santa to watch the children and then report back on their behavior to see whether or not they are good enough to receive presents this year. Besides the fact that some kids may find that creepy, I don’t really like that idea. Besides, we don’t “do” Santa at our house. (I have Santa decorations and we don’t try to hide him, we are just teaching our kids that Santa is make-believe and just a fun part of the holiday.)

Some people go all out with the Elf on the Shelf! There are even websites dedicated to sharing ideas of how to pose the elf for you kids to find the next day. I had originally decided that I wanted to do the Elf on the Shelf with Ruthie this year, just without the book/story line. I was just going to hide him every night for her to find. Well, December snuck up on me! I mean it was just so close to Thanksgiving this year! Anyway, I figured I’d just start late. I mean Ruthie wouldn’t know the difference. Then I saw the Elf in the store. Now maybe I’m cheap, but I wasn’t going to pay $30+tax for the guy. I decided we’d just wait again; maybe next year.

Credit: The Imagination Tree

Credit: The Imagination Tree

As I was working checking Facebook on the computer this evening I came across this article. I’m not endorsing everything in it, namely that the focus of Christmas is a religious holiday, but overall I really like the idea of this elf! I don’t plan on starting this year, but I really want to for next year! (Hopefully I do a better job with keeping track of the time.)  I really like these elves too! Maybe I’ll get one like him to be our Kindness Elf for next year.
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What do you think? Do you like the idea of a Kindness Elf instead of a sneaky, spy elf?

(Please note, if you do Elf on the Shelf with your kids, I’m not saying you are doing something wrong. I will say, however, don’t lie to your kids in the process of participating in it though. Lying is never right.)

 

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